2004-06-16 - 5:20 p.m.
So my Aunt D has been bugging me all week. I guess she came by over the weekend, saw that I wasn't here(Zora and I were at her dad's place for a few days), and felt she needed to have a discussion with me about it. I was really annoyed when she called and left me a message about it. I mean frankly, I don't feel its her business, nor is it her place to say anything. Knowing how domineering my Aunt can be, I really didn't want to talk to her, but I did today. It was actually much shorter & mellow that I thought it would be. She asked where I was. I told her Zora & I were with her father and offered no explanation or apology for that, since I don't feel its needed. She then wanted to know what was going on between me & Zora's dad. I told her that we were together and that most likely it would be long-term BUT we are taking it slow and will not make any hasty decisions. She asked me if I was sure I wanted that & stated that I shouldn't confuse Zora's relationship with her dad with the one between us. I'm like "DUH, what makes you think I am?!" I know that it would be possible for him to be in Zora's life without being in a relationship with me. If I did not love him and want to be with him, I wouldn't be with him, and that's that. But I AM with him and that's because I ACTUALLY want to be-not because I'm trying to give Zora a nuclear family. But this is characteristic of the reaction that some in my circle are having about he and I being together. It annoyed me, but at this point I refuse to let it. My family and friends may not agree with it 100%, but they've got to accept it and let me make my own decisions. Its not like I'm some 14 year old suffering from a crush or puppy love. I'm a grown woman capable of making my own decisions. It's about time people around me realize this.
